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Self Love ('ujb)

Self love is one's liking his worships and good deeds and his taking pride in them. One's appreciating the value of one's performed worships and good deeds and worrying and fearing lest they should be lost would not be self love. Nor would it be self love to rejoice with the realization that these acts of worship are blessings performed owing to the Grace of Allâhu ta'âlâ. Yet it would be self love to rejoice with a narcissistic delight that you have accomplished a good deal of worship, without thinking of the Kindness that Allâhu ta'âlâ has bestowed on you. The opposite of self love is 'minnat', which is the realization that you did not obtain the blessings with your own working and sweating but they are the blessings bestowed by Allâhu ta'âlâ. Thinking in this manner is obligatory (fard) when there is the danger of self love, and permissible (mustahab) otherwise. The dominant factor that leads human beings into self love is ignorance and unawareness (ghaflat). Since self love is a vice, we must get rid of it. In order to get rid of self love, one should ponder that all kinds of good and useful deeds and faculties, e.g., intellect, mind, and knowledge were given to him so that he should do good deeds or worships with them. Property and ranks are all given to us out of the Decree and Will of Allâhu ta'âlâ and owing to His creation according to His Decree.

Rasûlullah 'sall-Allâhu 'alaihi wa sal-lam' states in a hadîth-i-sherîf: "I am afraid, being sinless may beguile you into an even graver sin: 'ujb (self-love)!" A sinner will show humility and feel guilty and therefore ask for repentance. A person besotted with self love will be proud of his knowledge or doings and will be conceited and egoistical and therefore it will be very difficult for him to repent. Allâhu ta'âlâ will favor the sad moaning of sinners to the boastful voices of worshippers. The worst kind of self love is to like or admire one's own mistakes and desires (hawâ) of one's nafs. A person who has spoiled himself with this complacency always follows the desires of his nafs; in other words he becomes a slave to his nafs and never accepts any advice because he thinks that all others are a bunch of ignoramuses. But in reality he himself is very ignorant. Deviated people (ahl al-bid'at) and those who do not follow any Madhhab, i.e., "lâ-Madhhabîyya people," are in this category. They are attached to their deviated beliefs and to their corrupt worships by supposing themselves in the correct path. It is very difficult to obtain cure for this type of self love.